Once I lose weight, get money and find my person, then life will be good. Once I have that, I will *finally* feel like I have everything I need.
That used to be what I thought.
The truth is, that’s not how it works. You don’t need to lose weight to be happy, money isn’t going to make you happy, and if you’re not happy with your current life, finding someone else to help “complete” you, isn’t going to help either.
You need to accept yourself, as is. You’re already completed.
The truth is, it’s not about losing weight. It’s not about the before and after picture. It’s not about having all the money in the world and it’s not about finding your person. All of those can be nice. All of those can enhance your life. But until you are ready to recognize that you are already complete without all the extra “stuff,” having that extra stuff won’t fulfill you.
I’m here to help you. Do you need my programs? No. I’m not here to sel you on another “thing” you need. You were put here for a reason. You are special. You are amazing. And you are perfect just the way you are. The only thing you need to change is your mindset. And my programs and experiences might help get you there a little faster than I did.
You won’t see a lot of before and after pictures here. Before and after pictures can’t determine mental, physical or emotional health.
Welcome to Essentially Completed
I’ve been overweight my entire life. Pounds up and pounds down, once I finally lose this weight, I’ll be happy!
But, every time I lost weight, I started to get more stressed. My safety and security were being compromised and my trauma responses were kicking in. I didn’t feel safe. I didn’t feel secure.
I went to a therapist to help figure out what my triggers were and why I binge ate. Why I’d starve myself all day and binge at night. She suggested weight loss surgery. And something shifted in me. In that moment, I realized I wasn’t being heard. I wasn’t being seen as anyone other than someone who just needed to have surgery, and then everything would be fixed.
You’re already completed.
I knew, in that moment, surgery wouldn’t make me happy. Surgery, wasn’t for me (maybe it’s for you, and if it is, no shame) and there was so much more trauma in there for me to unpack.
I had to learn, I was complete, as is.
I know what you’re thinking. But Brandi, there’s no way I’m complete right now. There’s no way for me to accept myself with all my flaws; there are so many things wrong with me! I hear ya, I really do. But until you can accept yourself, as is, and be happy with your life, body and love yourself as is, you’ll never accept it when it gets “better.” If you finally get the money, the “perfect job,” the perfect relationship, lose the weight, the fill-in-the-blank, you still won’t be happy until you accept yourself as you are right now. With the Essentially Completed Tools and Programs you will feel:
- Satisfied with your life right now
- Comfortable in your own skin
- Never have to diet again
- Recognize triggers as they show up
- Make amazing things happen that you really want
- Live in the here and now and not in the future or the past
- Make decisions for yourself based on what you want, not what someone else wants you to do (like parents, friends or society).
Ways to help you:
My favorite ways to feel completed.
- Just a JournalYou know all those feelings you don’t want to feel? Yeah. About that. Truth be told, I hate journaling. I know most people in the self-help industry are alllll about the journal. They’ll almost always suggest you journal, every day.Continue reading “Just a Journal”
- MinimalismLet’s get organized. If you’re like me, the first time you heard “minimalism” you think, no way, not me. I need my stuff! If you close your eyes and think of your ideal home, what does it look like? HowContinue reading “Minimalism”
- Essential OilsLet’s get oily The madness behind the magic. Here’s the thing, I don’t care if you use the oils I use, I don’t care if you buy from me, I don’t care if essential oils aren’t one of the toolsContinue reading “Essential Oils”
You have so much more to do in this life than just lose weight, to wish you had more money, or to wait for “the one.” Start living now. As is.
You’re not cookie cutter. This isn’t a lifestyle change. It’s about showing yourself grace and compassion and letting someone hold space just for you (that’s where I come in). I’m here to accept you as is, to sit what you without judgement or expectation. It’s my sincere hope that you feel validated, valued and verified in your thoughts and feelings. If you’re curious about the services I provide, click the link below. And remember, you’re already, Essentially Completed.
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